• Curt Mercadante

The Danger of Struggle Porn

Everyone overcomes some sort of struggles in their lives. It's part of being a human.


And there's no competition over who struggled more or less.


The "overcoming" should be applauded. It is a fulfilling experience.


But beware you don't solely define yourself by your struggles.


Thanks to social media, there's been a growth in "struggle porn" in recent years. A person can almost guarantee likes, comments, shares, and greater "reach" of his or her posts if it's about the struggle.


Don't get me wrong — sharing your story is important, and I certainly hope you have someone with who you can discuss your struggles other than the strangers who "like" your social media posts.


It is, however, easy to get addicted to the dopamine rush of the positive response to your struggles.


And, don't become so accustomed to defining yourself by your struggles that your mind and body begin to believe that you are only the struggle.


The power of visualization to help you achieve your goals is well documented.


But that power of visualization can also have negative impact if you're constantly visualizing and vocalizing your struggle.


Beware it doesn't become a self-fulfilling prophecy.


One of my favorite quotes is from Dr. Joe Dispenza, who says:


"A memory without emotional charge is called wisdom."

In other words, overcome your struggle. Learn lessons from overcoming your struggle.


But don't marinate in that past struggle and let it define you.


No matter how many social media "likes" it gets you.


Keep focusing on your vision for the future and flow toward it every day.

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